Relationship & Connection — Penticton, BC

Relationship coaching in Penticton:
what you're still carrying that isn't yours

One-to-one, in person, for the weight that gets picked up in one relationship and quietly carried into every one after it.

Small towns keep score without meaning to — everyone half-knows everyone's history here. That makes the old weight easier to spot, once you're actually looking for it instead of around it.

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A lot of relationship strain isn't really about the person in front of you. It's an old account still being settled, billed to whoever's closest. Forgiveness — the real kind, not the performed kind — is what closes that account. Not because the other person earned it. Because you're done carrying it.

From the free content library

One piece, worth reading before your first session.

Forgiveness Is Silent (Or, What I Owe Becky)

I’d been ranting to myself again, which is how I do most of my thinking, about forgiveness and non-judgment, and how close they actually are. Forgiveness is a Jesus thing — a remedy, something you reach for after the fact. Non-judgment is more Buddhist — a preemptive strike. You never let the thing land in the first place.

Who this tends to be for

People who notice the same fight in every relationship.

Different partner, different friend, same argument wearing a new face. That's usually a sign the fight was never really about the person across from you — it's an old pattern finding a new place to run.

This also fits people navigating one specific, current relationship — a partner, a parent, a business partner — who want a third person in the room asking the follow-up question neither of them will ask on their own.

Foundational reading

Where this comes from, on the page.

Book Two

The New Golden Rule

The missing half of the rule most people already try to live by: treat yourself first, at the highest standard you can honestly maintain, then extend that standard outward. Most relationship strain starts with the first half being skipped.

"Treat yourself, and others, the way you want to be treated."

Paperback & Kindle — Amazon.ca · Amazon.com
Audiobook, read by the author, free — Part 1 · Part 2 · More about the books

Sessions

In person, in Penticton, on a real clock.

First meetings happen in your own space, for a scheduled one-hour conversation. Ongoing sessions run in two-hour blocks. One-on-one is the default; a partner or family member can join a session if that's what the situation actually calls for.

Full details on rates and format

Rates

Initial meeting$100
Ongoing meetings$250

Two-hour blocks. Penticton, BC.

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Before you write

Questions people actually ask.

Is this couples counseling?

No. There's no clinical diagnosis or treatment plan. It's coaching, usually one-on-one, sometimes with a second person in the room by choice, not by default.

Does forgiving someone mean staying in contact with them?

No — they're separate decisions. Forgiveness is about setting down what you're carrying. What you do about the relationship going forward is its own question.

What if the relationship I want to talk about already ended?

That's a common starting point. What's carried forward from a relationship doesn't need the relationship to still be active.

Do I need to read the books first?

No — they're there for more depth before or after a session, not as homework beforehand.

Come on in

Say hello.

Start with a message. No form, no funnel — just an email or a call, answered by the person you'd actually be working with.

hello@5-by-5.com 672.227.1915

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