Coaching — Vernon, BC
Coaching in Vernon,
with fivebyfive
One-to-one, in person, built on the same five-step framework behind the books and the free course material — no diagnosis, no required beliefs, no ongoing dependency.
This runs on a dojo model, not a dependency model — the goal is competence, not a standing appointment. Most people come in with one specific question and leave with a way of asking it themselves next time. Sessions are a conversation, not a consultation: no worksheets to fill out beforehand, no report card afterward.
Four ways people usually start
Coaching isn't one-size-fits-all. Neither is this.
fivebyfive is one framework, but people tend to bring one of a few different questions to it. Here's where most conversations actually begin.
Mindset & Perspective
Vernon Mindset Coaching
For catching the verdict before it lands — noticing the judgment, not just reacting to it.
Purpose & Meaning
Vernon Purpose Coaching
For finding what's already trying to grow, underneath a plan that looks fine on paper.
Relationships & Connection
Vernon Relationship Coaching
For how you actually show up with the people closest to you, not just who you're with.
Life Coaching
Vernon Life Coaching
For a life that needs a second look, worked as one whole season instead of separate problems.
The Framework
Five operational steps — offered, not required.
01
Stop the Signal
Notice the noise. Learn you don't have to keep listening to it.
02
Set the Tone
Decide what you actually want this to be for, before you react.
03
Pick a Station
Choose the input you're actually going to pay attention to.
04
Listen
Notice what happens once you stop giving equal weight to everything.
05
Love Wins
Not another task. What's available once the rest has been done.
This is the same framework behind the books, the free course material, and the content page — coaching just applies it with another person in the room.
Not ready to book yet? Start free.
Two pieces from the content library.
The free content page is the same thinking as coaching, written out instead of practiced live. Two places worth starting:
Content — 01
Love Does Not Turn Into Grief
A hard look at a comforting idea that doesn't hold up — and what to trust instead, when someone you love is gone.
Content — 02
Forgiveness Is Silent (Or, What I Owe Becky)
The difference between forgiveness and non-judgment — and why most relationship work touches both.
Foundational reading
The books this coaching is built from.
Book One
I Don't Know… But Here Is What I Have So Far
Fear, ego, control, judgment, the moment — the full foundation, in writing.
Book Two
The New Golden Rule
Treat yourself first, at the standard you can honestly maintain, then extend it outward.
Book Three
Battles of Belief
Classic atheist–Christian debates, reframed around the choice beneath every argument.
None of these claim final authority — they're tools. Full details on all three, and the one in progress →
Based here
Vernon and the North Okanagan.
Vernon sits between three lakes, not one — Kalamalka, the one people call the Lake of Many Colours, is close enough to see on an ordinary afternoon. Winters here don't ease in gradually; one week it's still shirt-sleeve weather, the next there's ice on the truck. This work happens here, in person, with people who'd rather sit across from someone than fill out an app.
Serving Vernon, Coldstream, Lumby, Lake Country, and the surrounding North Okanagan.
Sessions also travel south through the valley to Kelowna and Penticton by arrangement.
Before you write
Questions people actually ask.
Which page should I start with if I'm not sure?
This one's fine as a starting point — or if you want to jump straight in, life coaching is the broadest of the four.
Is this therapy?
No. There's no diagnosis, no treatment plan, and no clinical license behind it. If what you're carrying needs clinical support, this can sit alongside that, not replace it.
Do sessions actually happen in Vernon?
Yes — sessions travel to Vernon by arrangement, as part of the same Okanagan Valley service area as Kelowna and Penticton.
What does a first meeting cost?
$100 for the initial meeting, $250 for ongoing two-hour sessions. Full pricing is on each individual coaching page.
Come on in
Say hello.
Start with a message. No form, no funnel — just an email or a call, answered by the person you'd actually be working with.